This is the heck I’m all about: A young lad who’s carried away, tremendously, by the science of happiness.
It was ‘the yearning for a happy life’ that first brought me into this realm. But let me be clear, my writings aren’t supposed to tackle it as stereotypically.
Motivation can be boring, truth is not. And as far as I’m concerned, nothing resembles the truth more than science did. So here I’ll use scientific instruments — such as psychology, neuroscience, or evolutionary psychology — to jazz up, primarily, the topic of happiness.
I once had a dream, I wanted to…
Pursuing happiness for a lot of people is like chasing after the wind. The more you run after it, the more it also go away.
Playing in the background are the invisible hands of Hedonic Treadmill— which explains our tendency to quickly return to a relatively stable level of happiness, despite major positive events or life changes.
So, while it’s probably right that money, physical pleasure, or social status can make us happy — they do so only for a while. And like a never-ending cycle, we left dissatisfied, wanting for more.
Well, this is not a dead-end though. Psychologists…
Has it ever appeared to you that life is so blue that nothing can save you but a bottle of alcohol? Or have you experienced — amidst your abstinence — a mystifyingly seductive presence, whispering: “Take those cigarettes, come on, just this once!”
Every now and then, we know how dreadful an addiction could be. Call it porn, alcohol, or cigarette; all came with similar properties. They give temporary relief, despite miseries in the long run.
And for long, we’ve been told that the best way to end addiction is to stop doing it. So we strain ourselves — summoning…
I once had a goal, I wanted to be happy all the time. The fact that science has no boundaries allowed me to think of that.
So I dug, deeply.
I delved into books written by the best experts, reflected my thoughts, observed emotions in me and those around me. Well, it has been two years now, so here’s the conclusion I’ve got:
“I was a freakin fool”
The human brain is not designed for long-lasting happiness. Not because it wouldn’t be lovely to be in rainbow all the time — but simply because that’s not how the universe works.
External events do not alone produce emotion, their interaction with your internal processes did. This internal process is called: mental framework.
Your mental frameworks manage your interpretations, interpretations give rise to appropriate emotions.
Events → mental framework → emotional response
Psychologist, Carol Dweck, has made a great case for it. People can either belong to a fixed or growth mindset group, given similar setbacks they’ll respond differently:
Failure → Fixed mindset (I’m a fool)→ regret
Failure → Growth mindset (This isn’t my time yet) → ambition
Failure is just an example of many events which can make you miserable. Bad…
It ’s in the scope of no-one to teach you how to ‘feel’ happy. In fact, that has been written in the very fragment of your gene, the birthright that we all share.
In the beginning, there was this little smile from the ‘newborn’ you — a smile that delights the so-called mommy and daddy. Then you grew, playing in the backyard, portraying your wannabe hero or heroine. No parent needs any evidence that happiness ran in the scenery.
But then things start being different. You got older! You dudes grew beards, you chicks began ovulating. …
See I’ll give ya no bull
And leave this when ya ain’t fit the title. Cause it won’t make any use otherwise.
But if it is
Then follow my instructions properly
I know what ya feeling right now
Ya mind is out of control
Ain’t no solution fit, cause ya no need no any
This is no time to be rationale
But it is to take action, so, do it:
Open ya frickin phone
Set ya timer for 15 minutes
And RUN !!!
Ain’t no give a damn with ya outfit
Run with ya pajamas, run with ya suit…
2021 is on; resolutions are spreading all over the maps. The goal is clear: you want to kick-start a new habit.
Anyway, it’s easy to fall off the streaks, so you don’t want “just to start “ — you want to persist. And let me tell you, the statistics are daunting:
81 to 92 percent of New Year’s Resolutions are failures.
I feel you, no-one wants to stumble upon the same stone. In a moment, I’ll show you four questions to help you design a habit that sticks.
These questions emerge from dozens of research around how habits are formed…
I’m a lover when it comes to humanity. But a blind love is a foolish love, so it’s important to know that humans came with an ugly side:
We are selfish by nature.
Of course you never hear a political candidate saying, “Vote for me so I’ll have power over you,” or a friend telling, “Let me help you so you’ll help me back in the future,” — selfish motives are tucked away on the back of the mind, waiting to make a move whenever needed.
And it’s not limited only to “bad” people after all, this is the game…
Humans are curiosity machines. We ask why, we ask what, how and who — all in search of plausible answers, the one that sparks within our intellectual entity.
Stems from which is a question that I found ultimate:
“What is the Purpose of Life?”
This question is tricky — in part — because it confers two types of meaning.
The first meaning deals with seeing life from the outside: What is the purpose of our biological life and its consciousness? How does it matter in the face of stars, galaxies, and whole existence?
This type of question can be well…